purplerabbits

You see, I don't see the 'obvious implication' in what Paul has said. Just because eating less can mean people lose weight doesn't mean that overweight people are choosing this, or that choosing it would be bad. But then I know how helpful and supportive and non-judgemental (and how *not* like "a man") Paul has been with me, both during the nine years he's been with me while I wasn't dieting and during the one year when I have been. I would have hoped that other people who know him and me would also know this, and would have been less swift to leap to damning conclusions, but then, as I said, it's a terrifyingly emotive subject.