purplerabbits

Actually, yes, I feel the same way, but I'm not at all sure that's logical or fair. I think it's an 'unexpected behaviour other than the default' thing; I have no problem at all if I've been warned in advance that it was going to happen.

Did you originally mention that you were screening comments to your lyrics quiz, by the way?

Ummm... I suppose it would have to do with how you use LJ and how you think about it? Some people see it as quite a public place and others less so... It's difficult for me to do more than hazard a guess though really, since I'm quite opposite - depending on what I'm going to say there are definitely some times when I'd prefer a comment to be invisible to the masses. Of course, one could argue that I should then take the conversation to email or something, but I like the threading of LJ comments and it often just doesn't feel the same in email.

Occasionally duranorak and I post things that only the other one of us can see, and then have a conversation in comments. I don't konw why this is more comfortable than email, but sometimes it is...

I'm quite thoughtful about where I write. Would it be better as a face-to-face conversation, personal email, a closed list email, an LJ comment, a BCN article, a letter to a national paper etc.? (This also means I sometimes end up stuck and not writing at all.)

I do like to know how public what I write will be and what audience it will go to. Part of this is me being very private or wanting to keep control in some ways. Part of it is an outness / activism thing. It does annoy me if my expectations turn out to be incorrect.

I also get miffed by other people's writing going to less appropriate places than it could. This feels like it is for different reasons. I'm in general quite critical of structures that push people into doing things in particular ways. This contradicts the way I push myself internally to do things the "right way" and annoyance I get when groups I care about as community do things I think could be better structured.

A long way of replying "Yes, and yes."

I often use comment-screening - generally in posts to filter groups about health things or SM things.
I hope I make it clear enough, when I make posts where comments will be screened, that comments will be screened. Usually it's so people can have the option of replying just to me or to everyone else who can also see the post in question.

If I don't make it clear enough, please do let me know.
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I don't mind it, largely because I had my journal set to screen as default for a long time because of a stalker. But I think I can see where you're coming from. I mean, silly to comment on a post if no one is allowed to see what you've said. :)