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purplerabbits) wrote2019-12-04 11:22 am
purplerabbits) wrote2019-12-04 11:22 am
Meme of some use
So it won't be every day, but here is another set of words. Go me!
One thing I miss about LJ is that I got a much better picture of my friends lives from the longer form of posts than I get from the tiny contextless snippets of Facebook. One thing that did this reasonably well was some of the memes (back in the day when a meme was a quiz rather than a picture with words on.) Nowadays I feel very isolated in general, possibly because I am, but I also feel I don't know enough about my long distance friend's lives. As an example I recently found out from a third party that someone I knew had moved cities in a complicated way I knew nothing about.
Of course people are free to share or not share any aspect of their lives, but there is a tendency not to mention IRL facts which may just be habit, or not knowing when to bring it up in conversation, and for this reason I present my answers to "What is your actual life like?" A meme quiz by me. I'd love if other people would do this, and add or subtract questions as they please, but no-one has to
Name: Rowan Alison, some of you may also remember me having another name, which is still my legal name, but the only person who gets to use it is my mum
Age: 53 years old, which I am struggling to get my head round tbh
Living in
My own ground floor flat in Edinburgh for the last four and a half year. It has a garden and is literally the best thing I have ever bought
Relationship status
Single, living alone. I split up with my last boyfriend in 2016 and don't have any desire for another relationship most of the time. The idea of a non-sexual nesting partner is appealing, but I have no idea how to get from here to there or if it would be worth it when I did.
Children
None. I never wanted kids, but I do sort of feel sad that there are no children in my extended family and that I'm not close enough to any families with children to spend any time around them
Sexuality
Currently defining as asexual, but I am still keeping the label bi meaning biromantic, partly out of attachment to the bi community and in recognition of my past. I used to define as bisexual, and I don't want to completely disown that, in fact my sexuality change may be down to age/menopause and a strong case of cba, but asexual does feel most accurate now.
Gender
I don't have a gender so the label is agender. I used to define as female, but I had some issues with it which do look like clues in retrospect (though that may be selection bias) Again there may be a menopause element, but don't know if that was a cause or merely a source of gender euphoria for me. I don't get much if any gender dysphoria, but I do feel better for not wearing bras or trying to perform femininity any more. I prefer they/them pronouns.
Health
I have worsening osteoarthritis and therefore chronic pain and poor mobility. I use a rollator or a walking stick and can't climb stairs. I also have a bunch of depression/anxiety/SAD which is I have had for so long it seems normal. When I say I am depressed I mean really depressed...
What do I 'do' for a living?
I am on disability benefits, which are enough to live on but mean I have to jump through hoops every so often to keep them. I also do some 'permitted work' for the Equality Network which means I am getting paid to do actual bi activism after many years of doing it for free.
What am I doing for fun these days?
Learning French (or refreshing my school French) on Duolingo, Doing quizzes on Sporcle, playing Pokemon Go and Wizards Unite, reading, watching a lot of old TV (currently working through Big Bang Theory and started Rick and Morty)
What am I not doing anymore/ at the moment?
Pottery - haven't been in for months. Knitting, haven't really done any since I got stalled on a project last Christmas. I feel I should try to take both of these up again because I used to enjoy them. Birdwatching I don't do because I can't walk far enough and also it's super cold right now, but I miss being in nature and want to work out a way to do it.
Current issues in my life
Social isolation is a big one, plus I am waiting on a diagnostic procedure which I am trying not to think about. Other issues may appear in a more filtered post...
One thing I miss about LJ is that I got a much better picture of my friends lives from the longer form of posts than I get from the tiny contextless snippets of Facebook. One thing that did this reasonably well was some of the memes (back in the day when a meme was a quiz rather than a picture with words on.) Nowadays I feel very isolated in general, possibly because I am, but I also feel I don't know enough about my long distance friend's lives. As an example I recently found out from a third party that someone I knew had moved cities in a complicated way I knew nothing about.
Of course people are free to share or not share any aspect of their lives, but there is a tendency not to mention IRL facts which may just be habit, or not knowing when to bring it up in conversation, and for this reason I present my answers to "What is your actual life like?" A meme quiz by me. I'd love if other people would do this, and add or subtract questions as they please, but no-one has to
Name: Rowan Alison, some of you may also remember me having another name, which is still my legal name, but the only person who gets to use it is my mum
Age: 53 years old, which I am struggling to get my head round tbh
Living in
My own ground floor flat in Edinburgh for the last four and a half year. It has a garden and is literally the best thing I have ever bought
Relationship status
Single, living alone. I split up with my last boyfriend in 2016 and don't have any desire for another relationship most of the time. The idea of a non-sexual nesting partner is appealing, but I have no idea how to get from here to there or if it would be worth it when I did.
Children
None. I never wanted kids, but I do sort of feel sad that there are no children in my extended family and that I'm not close enough to any families with children to spend any time around them
Sexuality
Currently defining as asexual, but I am still keeping the label bi meaning biromantic, partly out of attachment to the bi community and in recognition of my past. I used to define as bisexual, and I don't want to completely disown that, in fact my sexuality change may be down to age/menopause and a strong case of cba, but asexual does feel most accurate now.
Gender
I don't have a gender so the label is agender. I used to define as female, but I had some issues with it which do look like clues in retrospect (though that may be selection bias) Again there may be a menopause element, but don't know if that was a cause or merely a source of gender euphoria for me. I don't get much if any gender dysphoria, but I do feel better for not wearing bras or trying to perform femininity any more. I prefer they/them pronouns.
Health
I have worsening osteoarthritis and therefore chronic pain and poor mobility. I use a rollator or a walking stick and can't climb stairs. I also have a bunch of depression/anxiety/SAD which is I have had for so long it seems normal. When I say I am depressed I mean really depressed...
What do I 'do' for a living?
I am on disability benefits, which are enough to live on but mean I have to jump through hoops every so often to keep them. I also do some 'permitted work' for the Equality Network which means I am getting paid to do actual bi activism after many years of doing it for free.
What am I doing for fun these days?
Learning French (or refreshing my school French) on Duolingo, Doing quizzes on Sporcle, playing Pokemon Go and Wizards Unite, reading, watching a lot of old TV (currently working through Big Bang Theory and started Rick and Morty)
What am I not doing anymore/ at the moment?
Pottery - haven't been in for months. Knitting, haven't really done any since I got stalled on a project last Christmas. I feel I should try to take both of these up again because I used to enjoy them. Birdwatching I don't do because I can't walk far enough and also it's super cold right now, but I miss being in nature and want to work out a way to do it.
Current issues in my life
Social isolation is a big one, plus I am waiting on a diagnostic procedure which I am trying not to think about. Other issues may appear in a more filtered post...
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